- JEK New York

- Jun 30, 2025
- 3 min read
In the nick of time, keeping with my cadence of once-a-month blog posts, and on my 10 year anniversary of NYC, here I am. Writing this blog post. I moved here with two suitcases, arriving via Amtrak, all the way from Texas, via Belize, to pursue that lifelong, five-year self dream, of fashion design. No job - yet - only a place to live.
And guess what, I did it. I completed the fashion design degree, (did get that job and worked full-time while attending school part-time) at the top fashion school, in the States, number two in the world, on scholarships, and graduating with honors. Not sure the pedigree or the prestige of the school matters to me that much anymore, though kind of cool to reflect on maybe. Along with the facts of one of the most grueling, rigorous and beautiful periods of my life. I look back in awe and admiration.
Lately, I've been listening to the song, 'Real Girl' by Mutya Buena. Just found out Lenny Kravitz was one of the song writers. I'm sharing the full lyrics below because it speaks to me in present time and is the song to celebrate 10 years. And before I forget, here I am with my own fashion brand too.
Real Girl
If I had one chance to in my life again
I wouldn't make no changes, now or way back when, yeah
And if everything turns out the way I hope it goes
But I can't wait to find out what it is that God knows
But I don't wanna think about
What's gonna come around for me
I'll just take it day by day
'Cause it's the only way
To be the best that I can be
I never pretend to be something I'm not
You get what you see when you see what I've got
We live in the real world, I'm just a real girl
I know exactly where I stand
And all I can do is be true to myself
I don't need permission from nobody else
'Cause this is the real world, I'm not a little girl
I know exactly who I am
And nothing's ever perfect, there's no guarantee
And if I knew the answers, it would put my mind at ease, no-no
So, I'll just keep on going the way I've gone so far
And maybe I'll end up tryin' to catch a fallin' star, yeah
But I don't wanna think about
What's gonna come around for me
I'll just take it day by day
'Cause it's the only way
To be the best that I can be
I never pretend to be something I'm not
You get what you see when you see what I've got
We live in the real world, I'm just a real girl
I know exactly where I stand
And all I can do is be true to myself
I don't need permission from nobody else
'Cause this is the real world, I'm not a little girl
I know exactly who I am
Maybe this is who I am, don't need you to understand
'Cause everything is right where it should be
And it won't be long 'til you know about me
'Cause I don't give up even when I'm out on love
'Cause everythings just how it should be
And it won't be long 'til you know about me
I never pretend to be something I'm not
You get what you see when you see what I've got
We live in the real world, I'm just a real girl
I know exactly where I stand
And all I can do is be true to myself
I don't need permission from nobody else (no)
'Cause this is the real world, I'm not a little girl
I know exactly who I am
I never pretend to be something I'm not
You get what you see when you see what I've got
We live in the real world, I'm just a real girl
I know exactly where I stand
And all I can do is be true to myself
I don't need permission from nobody else
'Cause this is the real world, I'm not a little girl
I know exactly who I am
I know exactly who I am

































![Black — The LAST chapter in “The Secret Lives of Color,” by Kassia St. Clair.
Black — the absence of light.
Kohl — in a section of the Louvre, Bes, a statuette depicting the fierce fighter + protector of women, children and homes, lives. In his hollow head, is a small container for kohl eyeliner. The belief is in the magical properties of kohl, a mineral.
Payne’s gray — absolutely adored by artists for its ‘atmospheric perspective’ quality.
Obsidian — aka volcanic glass. It forms from molten lava erupting from the Earth, coming into contact with ice or snow and cooling very quickly. Dr. John Dee, an Elizabethan, English mathematician, astrologer, and natural philosopher used obsidian to call his spirits. The Aztec patroness of witches, Itzpapalotl, means obsidian butterfly. I love that.
Ink — the tendency for ink to be black is due to fluidity and ease. The ancient Chinese were known for perfuming inks with clove, honey and musk! Islam has a devotional relationship with black ink too — the Arabic word for ink, midād, is related to the divine substance or matter.
Charcoal — ‘a carbon-rich by product of organic matter — usually wood — and fire’. Purest and less ashy when oxygen exposure is limited.
Jet — aka lignite. A type of coal formed over periods, and periods of time from wood that is highly pressurized. At its peak formation, it can be carved and polished to a glassy sheen. Whitby, England is where the top notch jet is found.
Melanin — a true black that resides in the animal kingdom, though not in plants. Two types of melanin — eumelanin and pheomelanin. A raven, is an absolute, black animal excellence. Ravens are known to be visually striking, and very intelligent.
Pitch black — the absolute fearsome form of darkness! ‘What manner [of land] is this into which I have come? It hath not water, it hath not air, it is deep, unfathomable, it is black as the blackest night.’ — Book of Dead.
Read the entire book, documenting and posting each chapter. Learned so much, and the book traveled to many countries. Built a habit.
Next up, the live launch, March 25, 2025. 🩷#trustthetiming #jeknewyork2025](https://scontent.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.75761-15/486213051_17949397940954827_6487494542895079921_n.jpg?stp=dst-jpg_e35_tt6&_nc_cat=105&ccb=7-5&_nc_sid=18de74&efg=eyJlZmdfdGFnIjoiQ0FST1VTRUxfSVRFTS5iZXN0X2ltYWdlX3VybGdlbi5DMyJ9&_nc_ohc=ivFe-jl15jkQ7kNvwG9u-Lw&_nc_oc=Adlpl7vcwZCob88ejqOpsBEMhEOpG8P8_DJGwHMW4XvNNwPoi2qsYgim0NbH49fg5MM&_nc_zt=23&_nc_ht=scontent.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&_nc_gid=Gm8fDfDu6TTotHPtOaKHiA&oh=00_AfrcULGx7ML3sX7Vp3FKkFCv2a7ZRTyxKuXMD1LFdiVvSQ&oe=6967D297)

















